Your hair is different from your friends hair or mates hair. Though there are different hair types and everyone falls into at least one of them, each head of hair is unique. This means the styling products that work for someone else are not going to be the best choice for you. You have to consider a few things before you decide what you should use. These things would be the style that you have, the health of your hair, the thickness of your hair, and how your hair behaves. Having curls or having straight hair makes a difference as well.
Many people hate their hair and they fight with it each day. Once you know what styling products you should be using, this may change for you very quickly. If you are putting the wrong product in your hair when washing and conditioning, or when subsequently styling it, it is not going to go well for you. Instead, start from the ground up in building a plan for your hair. Once you do this, your hair will behave better, and you will cut a good amount of time off of your routine each morning. Not to mention eliminating those urges to chop it all off or even shave it off to start all over again.
First, decide if you are using the right shampoo and conditioner. If you have healthy hair, anything you use should be fine. Just make sure you are not using something to heavy if you have fine hair. This will weigh it down and will affect how your styling products are going to work. Those with damaged hair should use something that will nourish the hair and that will help with frizz and fly-away hair. If you have frizz, use a base styling product right after you are done with your shower to help with that. After that you can then start styling.
If you have hair that weighs down easy, gel may not be the best type of styling products for your hair. If you can find one that does not weigh down your hair, and this is your preference, you have found something you can use. However, most people with fine hair that tends to lack volume are the ones that do better with a root booster, and something like a light mousse for styling products. These can shape, define, and control your hair if that is what you need. Using these with heat can help add volume to lifeless hair.
If you have hard to manage hair that does whatever it wants, your search for styling products is going to be harder, but there are solutions out there for you. Gels will offer some control, as will things labeled as milk for the hair or as a wax. These are stronger, coat the hair more, and will add some weight, which keeps flyaway hair down and under your control better than lighter styling products. If all else fails, and you are still viewing your head of hair as a nightmare, talk to your stylist about solutions. They know just what you should use for the best haircare and style results.