The Battle with Tossing and Turning

We’ve all had those nights that we just couldn’t find the comfortable part of the bed and spent hours tossing and turning till the break of dawn. Why does this happen?

sleeping worried photoWell, your desire to “toss and turn”, really isn’t the result of you not being comfortable, it’s the result of you not feeling relaxed. On a deeper feeling our mind wants us to relax, but most of the times we interpret the message as “find a comfortable spot on the bed.” True relaxation comes from within you, and has to be triggered by your inner thought process.

For example: You could be in a hammock on a hot summer day in Hawaii, but if you’re thinking about whether the stock market will rise or fall, and you’ve got a 100 million dollars on the line and it’s REALLY bothering you, it won’t matter what position you’re in that hammock, you won’t relax!

If you’re lying in bed and you get the urge to toss or turn, wait it out, you’ll be surprised how quickly it fades! When you get the urge to toss and turn, ask yourself “How can I focus on something else right now to feel more relaxed?” As you lie there for about 15 seconds, you’ll be surprised at how the urge to toss and turn simply fades, and you realize that all you really want to do is relax.

sleeping smile photoUnderstand that if you do start tossing and turning, it will not end with just ONE toss or turn, because of the momentum effect, you will just keep tossing and turning till the break of dawn!

Sometimes the urge to move is really intense, or maybe you really are in a very painful position on your bed. If you absolutely MUST move, do it in this way:

(1) Move, but move very slowly. Remember what it feels like when you wake up in the morning and you’re very sleepy, do you move very quickly then?

(2) As you move very slowly, put a big bright smile on your face, and take a deep breath.

Another reason why tossing and turning keeps us awake is because we do it very quickly, and the more we do it, the more it agitates us! So do it very slowly, and make sure to smile and breath deeply, you will feel the difference.


Photo by Celestine Chua

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